Seasons change – and that’s a good thing

The leaves have all fallen and the cool air reminds me that winter is settling in. The changing seasons are inevitable and they show us that old things come to an end and new things begin. Sometimes when there is a new season in our lives there is great anticipation and excitement as God moves us into something new. Other times there is apprehension and doubt. We may hesitate to move from what is comfortable out of fear of the unknown. If you choose to hang on to a season God is calling you from, you may begin to experience frustation, difficulties and challenges. God’s timing is perfect and “He knows the plans He has for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jer. 29:11).  And if you hestitate because you’re afraid of surrendering to His will you may just miss out on something incredible that is waiting just a step of faith away. But when you put your trust in God when He reveals to you that it’s time for a change of season, you can enter in with the confidence that no matter what the change may look like going in or how difficult it may seem, God desires only His best for you. We can entrust the details to Him and be assured that He will never take us anywhere that He will not be right beside us. When your heart’s desire is to be in the center of God’s will, your worries and doubts will turn to joy and peace as the new season unfolds into God’s destiny for your life. If you are in a place where you know God is telling you that it’s time to move on, be obedient and take a step of faith as you follow His lead into the new season. Following the end of a season in your life marks the blossoming of new things and a new season God wants to usher you into. Embrace it and get moving!

Follow Your Heart

The latest news to consume the media world is the announcement by Kim Kardashian that she is seeking a divorce after her short 72-day marriage to Kris Humphries. In her own words she said “it just didn’t turn out to be the fairy tale I had so badly hoped for”. I often see marriages in crisis. I live near a military post and many of my friends and the people I know are active duty. Marriage is not easy even under the best circumstances but when one of the spouses is deployed to a war zone for a year and the other spouse is left behind to run the household and raise the children without their soldier by their side, even the strongest marriages are strained. When I see couples fighting to keep their marriages together because they believe so much in the institute of marriage and the vows to which they’ve commited I am encouraged and my faith is built stronger. But when Kim Kardashian says “But I do know that I have to follow my heart” and ends her marriage after just 72 days I am angry. I’m angry that she is making a mockery of her marriage vows. I’m angry that she says she has to follow her heart because I want to know what she was following just 72 days earlier when she vowed to love and cherish Kris Humphries in good times and bad. I’m angry because there are countless women who watched her fairy tale wedding on TV and who want so badly to be like her and that now think it’s ok just to give up on a sacred vow made before God just because it wasn’t the fairy tale they thought it would be. I’m angry because there were millions of dollars spent on a wedding yet there is not enough government funding to provide adequate marriage counseling for those who sacrifice for our country and for education on how to divorce-proof a military marriage. I’m angry because every day I’m telling women “hang in there, don’t give up” and Kim Kardashian is telling women “I had hoped this marriage was forever, but sometimes things don’t work out as planned”. The whole problem with “following your heart” is your heart cannot be trusted. Our heart is where our feelings are and our feelings change based on our circumstances. When the circumstances are good, we are happy. When they change and things start to get bad, we are unhappy. If we make major life decisions based on how we “feel” at the moment we may make a huge mistake that affects not only ourselves but others as well. There may be children involved who will be forever affected by a choice we make based on how we felt at the moment we made that decision. If given time and opportunity, our circumstances many times can and will change which means our feelings can and will change. Don’t make decisions based on how you feel at the moment and whatever you do, do not put all your trust in your heart. The only place to put your trust is in Jesus Christ. He is unchanging because He is not affected by circumstances. Unlike our feelings that blow about with the winds of change, Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). It is time to put your trust where it won’t be affected by ever-changing circumstances. Put your trust in and follow Him.